As a woman, each year I am more and more concerned by the portrayal of women
in the media, advertisements, and entertainment. I wonder about the impact this has, not only on women’s perception of their role in society but also on their actual engagement in society. Men can be real – growing gut, thinning hair – but women almost always are portrayed as their ideal. When women aren't depicting the feminine ideal, they are frequently playing a caricature: a bimbo, a bitch, a slut. Lord knows you can't sell anything without a smiling, busty, underdressed woman in the ad (except for cleaning products – the women are still busty, but generally clothed).
Women, with our inferior brain capacity, have stupidly gone along with this. We spend billions each year on products that we hope will transform us into the ideal image of woman as we strive to reach increasingly unrealistic expectations of beauty. Witness Desperate Housewives – hot 40-something mothers with rock-hard abs, wearing a size 0, always ready to have sex or host a tea party at a moment's notice. (That is, after all, ideal womanhood isn't it?) Not only are we now convinced that a woman could look as hot at 40 as she did at 25, we increasingly think she should. It gets harder to look that good with each passing year, requiring more and more effort from women. What is it that women aren't doing while they're busy reaching for the feminine ideal? Breaking the glass ceiling, for one.
Setting aside individual opinions of Hillary Clinton, this New York Times blog sums up the sexist coverage of this year's presidential campaign. I’m ambivalent about Hillary Clinton – I’m neither for nor against her. But I do admire her and I am grateful for the introspection she is forcing our culture to have about gender roles. Sadly, I’m afraid the soul-searching delivers bad news: many Americans are still uncomfortable with a woman who is smart, aggressive, and ambitious. She can be smart like Condoleezza Rice; she can be aggressive like Serena Williams; she can be ambitious like Oprah Winfrey. But God forbid she be all three (not to mention unattractive – gasp! – like Janet Reno) lest she find herself on the receiving end of our culture’s sexist wrath. John Kerry runs for president and his opponents put out a line of Republican ketchup. Hillary Clinton runs for president and her detractors issue a nutcracker doll in her image, complete with razor-tooth thighs.
What’s strange to me is that the media has taken a serious look at racial bias in this election – for example the fact that Appalachian voters won’t vote for a black man – but doesn’t feel similarly compelled to examine gender bias. An anti-Hillary organization selected a name the acronym for which is C.U.N.T. To say nothing of the vulgarity, there is no cry of moral outrage. If an anti-Obama group were formed with the acronym N.I.G.G.E.R., the outcry from blacks and whites alike would be heard around the world, and rightly so. Why, then, aren’t men and women clamoring about sexist sentiment in this election? You want to know why? Because women aren't bothered by the sexism. If women would stand up and call foul, the men would follow. We have the moral – and scientific – high-ground here. But if women aren’t willing to stand up for their own equality, why should they expect their chivalrous male protectors to do so? That’s perhaps the most paternalistic fallacy of all.
So what’s worse than silence from women in response to sexist campaign coverage? When a woman joins in the sexist commentary. The gender low-point of this election cycle was when a female journalist chided Hillary Clinton for shedding a solitary tear before the New Hampshire primary. Laura Ingraham, a radio host and frequent cable news commentator, remarked that America faces serious threats like Islamic jihadists and can’t afford to have a president who breaks down when the going gets tough. I didn’t realize that releasing one tear qualifies as a breakdown. Regardless, by that logic Hillary Clinton is at least as qualified as George W. Bush, Bill Clinton, George H. W. Bush, and a host of other politicians who have been caught on film with their eyes welling up. But thank you, Laura Ingraham, for undercutting a half century of progress with a single remark.
Women have come a long way in what they – we – can achieve in education, business, and politics, but at the end of the day it is still very much a man's world. I don’t typically don the hat of feminist. I take for granted that my gender doesn't impede me in what I want to achieve (except perhaps in moving the sofa). And like many women, I’m unsympathetic to the hard, bitter, man-bashing feminists who seem to stand in the way of gender equality as much as the male-centric world view they protest. But now I wonder whether I can afford to be so laissez-faire with respect to equality.
The legacy of American feminism is anti-feminism, not equality. Women are more afraid of being called a feminist – a slur right up there with bitch in modern vernacular – than of being objectified or discriminated against. In fact, I know quite a lot of men who are more progressive on this issue than women. I don't advocate that any woman stop shaving her legs or grow a gut – a lipstick feminist, if you will – but increasingly I question how equal we really are. After all, so long as women allow themselves to be treated as objects, they will be. And as long as we allow people to put us in our place, we'll always have a place that constrains us.









Comments (7)
Really, really a wonderful post, Sophie. I'm so glad to see others like me thinking on this. The questions you raise should continue to be raised until we address them.
I love your last line: "And as long as we allow people to put us in our place, we'll always have a place that constrains us."
Posted by Nora Thomason
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June 8, 2008 10:24 PM
Posted on June 8, 2008 22:24
Fabulous post. So glad you shared it with us!
Posted by Pam Pohly
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June 8, 2008 10:44 PM
Posted on June 8, 2008 22:44
You have some very cool links in this post. I enjoyed reading your post all the way through without following the links the first time - and thought it was a well-written and persuasive post. Then, I went back and read it and followed each of the links - perfect additions! It's good to see young women pick up the mantle of gender equality.
Posted by Jerry Jacobs
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June 9, 2008 11:18 PM
Posted on June 9, 2008 23:18
I am a feminist. I do believe that this political and ideological movement is as critical in the U.S. today as it was during suffragism and the push for the Equal Rights Amendment, though for different reasons. Certainly, progress has been made. Nonetheless, gender does impede equality. Glass ceilings still do exist and are implanted firmly in many professions and geographic areas. Only a concerted, committed fight for equality will accomplish the agenda of equal rights and protection so desperately needed today.
Complacency produces regressive social and political movement. Hard-fought social justice can be eroded when advances are taken for granted. The backlash about which you write is real and, in places, scathing. While feminism has not achieved equality (a process not an endpoint), its legacy here is most assuredly not simply anti-feminism, in my opinion. The backlash must embolden the movement, not cause some to shrink away.
I teach at Fort Hays State and taught a contemporary feminist rhetoric class this spring. Part of the feminist legacy at FHSU is on-campus classes suffer mightily, while on-line courses are filled (often with local women). You are right: many women (and men) students are reluctant to identify themselves as feminists in a campus environment, though the interest is definitely there. Seven students took the class, four women and three men. I believe the feminist tradition domestically and internationally is robust, diverse, provocative, and profound.
Commodification and objectification by men and women erect significant roadblocks along the road to equality. Feminism is a regular feature in all of the classes I teach and the student response is decidedly mixed. A vilification of so-called "political correctness" has actually caused erosion of feminist advances. Easy colloquialisms like "guys" has introduced new generations to the erasure of women from their everyday vernacular, with concomitant consequences in the ways people think about who we are.
There are other risks attendant to the feminist agenda, when not carefully articulated. Equality between men and women itself risks the exclusion of many different types of people who do not fit neatly into either category and naturalizes as biological these markedly social categories—e.g., naturally-occurring hermaphrodites, pre-operative individuals, certain transgendered folks, and a host of others who do not accept the false biological dichotomy between male and female. Queer studies and its social justice agenda seeks to remedy many of these shortcomings in traditional feminism.
Still, there is a powerful need for a traditional gender and sexual equality movement, especially in places like western Kansas. There certainly was a different sensibility when I was studying in Austin during the 90's. Geography plays an important role in how any political/ideological agenda is formulated and enacted.
I support strongly much of what you write, Sophie. However, I think you misunderstand "lipstick feminism," which is a type of feminism that does not critique objectification, like using make-up, lipstick, and, in its more radical forms, prostitution, nude dancing, exhibitionism, and the like. Women who choose not to follow the social convention (ritual) of shaving their legs or armpits seemed to be the antithesis of self-objectification, since, especially in western Kansas, such women are regularly denigrated, stared at, and often seen as less "desirable.” I celebrate the courage of those women and men (and those who do not fit into either category) to follow their own path. As to the question of "a gut" on women, there seems to be too much bigotry aimed at people who do not conform to the "beauty myth" (not that you are encouraging such bigotry): also, how does having "a gut" indicate lipstick feminism, let alone feminism at all, unless there is a presumption that women are supposed to be [fill in the blank] shape.
Posted by Bill Shanahan
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June 10, 2008 12:38 AM
Posted on June 10, 2008 00:38
I really appreciate your comments, Bill. I know very little about the feminist movement and your remarks have opened my eyes to just how complex it can be to navigate. At some point I'll get around to expanding on the first half of my post - the portrayal of fictional women in the media. I hope you'll offer more of your insight at that time.
Posted by Sophie Milam
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June 11, 2008 11:25 PM
Posted on June 11, 2008 23:25
Sophie, I look forward to you posting more about feminism. I too am learning.
Posted by Nora Thomason
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June 12, 2008 12:15 AM
Posted on June 12, 2008 00:15
I really enjoyed the article as sometimes it is hard to see that sexism is still prevelant since I am a guy. What I really found interesting was the last paragraph, specifically "Women are more afraid of being called a feminist...". What struck me about this was the title of this blog post, feminist rant from an anti-feminist. I think that does a really good job of driving the point through. I am not sure if you intended that or if it was subconcious. If it is subconcious, it definitely adds more to your point. great post Sophie.
Posted by fito
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June 16, 2008 7:59 PM
Posted on June 16, 2008 19:59